Can We Just Talk?

Readers: I just wrote the most hilarious blog post of my life, but I do not think this class is ready for it. I think if I post it, I could get in a lot of 'people' drama, so if you are seeing this... I have posted the Alternate Post. I have taken the Safe Route, and I am a chicken. But, onward!
When Jourdon Anderson's former slave master "wanted [Jourdon] to come back and live with [him] again, promising to do better for [Jourdon] than anybody else can," he really wasn't all too original. Or at least our generation isn't. Whenever people seriously mess up, but don't care enough to personally fix it, they swindle their way out of apologizing in person. Or whenever they're about to mess up, and are too scared to personally talk their way through it, they avoid being there in the flesh, to personally tell you the truth. His letter-apology was the olden way of what is now done by our screens.

Our generation is awful at this. We have this awful tendency to use our phones as a way to weasel our way out of certain scenarios, as if our phone is some God that is granting us the power of cowardice. Nothing is ever done in person anymore, important conversations are instigated and finished through the all-mighty phone. Why are you crying? Oh, it's because you received a bad text, because there's no way that someone would ever have the initiative to behave that way to you in person.

An example? One of my friends got broken up with while he was peeing. He was on a Facetime call with his now ex-girlfriend, who waited until he muted the call, and peeled his eyes off the screen simply to relieve himself, so she could reveal that she no longer thought the relationship was a 'good idea'. Don't want to look someone in the eyes, but too lazy to type paragraphs? Why, just wait until they have to pee, easy solution!

One time, I almost got dumped through GroupMe. Of all apps, GroupMe. No, it wasn't in a group chat, but hey, if you want to avoid talking something out and it happens to be the middle of the night, why not shoot your significant other a quick dm through freaking GroupMe just to let them know you're not feeling it? If you don't have your phone on you, good thing you have other apps that can reach that person, because God forbid you wait for the sun to rise to tell them the news in person.


Those are just a couple of token 'funny' examples, but in all seriousness, hiding behind those screens will do nothing for us in the long run. Learning how to properly break and reform human connections is just as important as learning how to maintain them. And if we keep using our phones as security blankets for when times get tough? Good luck.

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  1. Lauren MonaghanMarch 17, 2019 at 11:30 AM

    Abby I love this post so much! I completely agree that this generation is too engrossed in our phones and it is honestly ruining relationships. I really like how the letter to Jourdan fit so well with your post!

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  2. Izzy MeremMarch 17, 2019 at 11:54 AM

    Omg Abby I loveee this post!! We are so addicted to our phones that it has become a network for hurting others, since we are too scared to see the look on the face of the person we just destroyed... we are all chickens (so it's also ok you didn't post your other blog hehehe u made the right call). Awesome job girl!!

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  3. Connor LevittMarch 17, 2019 at 1:35 PM

    I love how u integrated the previous text from this week and somehow manage to relate it to phones. Keep up the good work!

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  4. molly capelliMarch 17, 2019 at 5:26 PM

    Interesting analysis I absolutely love it; mr. werenka (the ap gov teacher) calls phones our "digital crack" and that we have to "cut the umbilical cord" to our phones, to which we all groan of course (because what a bad dad joke) but you know, he may actually be right(!) we are so attached to our phones and we use them to escape (i sometimes fake being on a phone call to not have to talk to a person i dont like #sorrynotsorry) so i think this blog is super relevant!

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